Why Self Love Is Important?

Why Self Love Is Important

Just like we crave for true love, we should also crave self-love, for, without self-love, you can never love truly. Also means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others; not settling for less than you deserve.

Over the years, self-love has been termed conceitedness, selfishness, and egotistical. How can loving my very own self be selfish and egotistic?. Self-love is not selfish; you simply cannot move another until you know how to love yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Self-love reveals your very true form, makes you know your flaws and strength, and also create awareness on self-actualization. Being proud of who you are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you is a top benefit of self-love.

Self-love isn’t just a task to get through because you in dire need for love from the outside, No!. Self-love makes you come to terms with your self-actualization, accept it in all ramifications, make you know your worth, and validity to your feelings, looks, goals, and career.

Learning to love yourself

CREATE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS

This is the first step to take; you should create your happiness yourself. The first step is getting accustomed to what makes us happy. Being positive in all ramifications, doing what we’re mostly passionate about, and talking to people we really care about. Doing what we mostly love often makes the soul and body happy.

KNOW YOUR FLAWS

Identifying your flaws is crucial. You need to know our weakness without anyone pointing it out. “Truly it is an evil to be full of faults, but it is greater evil to be unwilling to recognise them, since that is to add them further fault of voluntary illusion.”- Blaise Pascal. Self-inquiry brings out your flaws. If we resist looking at our negative qualities, how can we identify and work with our shortcomings?

KNOW YOUR STRENGTH

This is the third step; Self-inquiry about our inner being, accessing our pasts, and knowing what brings out the guts and powers in us is paramount.

TAKE YOURSELF OUT

This is the fourth step; Taking yourself out improves self confidence and self-love. Going out by yourself will create chances for you to try out new things-(food, clothes, adventure, movies,etc) which you really wouldn’t consider if you had company. Also always remember, taking yourself out is not weird, it is a perfectly normal thing to do.

GET OFF YOUR PHONE

This is the fifth step; Being with your phone always is a bad habit. Yes!, it is. A new study found out that over attachment to your phone can cause series of social problems- inner feelings of loneliness, isolation, anxiety and the dreaded depression. A new study also found out that simply leaving your phone at night can improve your happiness, mental well-being and quality of life in just a week’s time.

DO AWAY WITH THE PAST

This is the sixth step; Living in the pasts creates room for loopholes. It allows old doors to stay open, and new doors to remain shut. Forgetting the last is essential for self-love. If you can never truly let go of whatever is already done then you truly aren’t allowing yourself to be happy.

CREATE A POSITIVE MINDSET

This is the seventh step; Without a positive mind-set, you’ll struggle to push through ups and down for chasing your goals. You’ll struggle to shove off hate speech, bullying taunts, body shaming, etc. You need positivity to run through you veins.

FIND NEW THINGS

This is the eight step; You need to discover new interesting things. Be curious! Never let the gear of the unknown stop you. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is actually good for you. Trying new things out helps to take away boredom, and overthinking, also helps to expand your mind to learn new things.

LEARN WHEN TO SAY YES AND HOW TO SAY NO

This is the ninth step; We say yes often in situation that deserves “no”. Often than hardly, we displease ourselves to please others because we feel it’s the right thing to do. No!. We are hardwired to please people. It can be uncomfortable to tell someone “no” because we don’t like how it feels to disappoint someone but then again, always say Yes when it right and comfortable to you. Say “no” when it pushes you far away from your ethics and comfort zone.

IDENTIFY GOALS AND PRIORITY

This is the tenth step; To make your dream/future your reality, set some reasonable, short-term, and long-term goals for yourself based on your top values.

Always remember; You’re more likely to get where you want to go if you set a goal and commit yourself to it. To increase your chances of success even further: Choose some strategic steps toward your goal and Keep your plan close by, so you can see how each action step is working and make improvements to the plan as you go.

CREATE SELF-TRUST

This is the eleventh step- Once you know your mission, be totally honest with yourself: Are the activities that take up most your time really moving you towards your goals? If not, it’s time to set some priorities that supports your goals, and make sure they get plenty of your time and attention.

Happiness comes when you binge on things that support the betterment of your life.

The good news is that we all have the same amount of time every day, so use it to your advantage. Since there will always be plenty of diversions to distract you from your goals, practice staying in the driver’s seat when it comes to time management.